I'm often asked whether I am a feminist, and glared at for not giving a decisive response. Haw! Really?
Truth is, there are many versions of 'feminism' right from the inception of the term and through its evolution. The most popular being that of bashing males, or worse hating them, and doing exactly the things associated with 'being a man.'
On the one hand so-called feminists or the popular (unfortunately) wings associates strongly with prostrating themselves and allowing themselves to be objectified in the media, at the workspace, trying to shed off their clothes to give the appearance of modern as opposed to traditional. Burkha or bikini, it boils down to appearance, and is the result of what men would like to see either publicly or privately. Either way it is only and only a function of the patriarchal set up feminists condone.
Is that all a woman is about? How she looks? And does that define her as either 'free' or 'feminist'? I hardly think so.
The issues should be, in my opinion, right to be born and live. Right to education and work, and equal pay. The right to look like nerds and scraggy dolls as opposed to ass and boobs and pouted lips. The right to sex and marriage. The right to equal pay for equal work among many other fundamental rights.
But if sexing themselves up wasn't bad enough, women try to be like men! The insecurity around being a girl and a woman are so deep rooted, that women start off trying to become tomboyish to gain acceptance in the circle of family and friends. Give up colours, start smoking, doping and drinking and sleeping around with office colleagues to get to the top. They pride themselves in being 'supermoms' which is nothing but glorifying themselves for doing twice the amount of work.
Start giving up cooking, and wanting kids, being aggressive and the like. It's almost like they are ashamed of themselves. It's actually serious insecurity with being a woman altogether.
Men who claim to be feminists are no less. So I find it a shame that men start looking at women as cooler when they are more aggressive, and willing to pull others down at any cost, who sleep around to move up the ladder, and start doing 'cooler' things, which are associated with being a man. Nothing but a reflection of their own sub-species.
The point is the planet needs nicer, more balanced and sensible people, who are comfortable in their own skin - fat, thin, tall, short, dark, not-so-fair, those who cook and those who eat, those who are nurturing and loving, those who place values of education and non-violence and truth and who don't abuse themselves either by starving themselves or smoking or prostrating themselves at the work place.
And guess what, being in the garb of a man or a woman should not matter. So I don't really know if I want to label myself as a feminist. I just know that the same rules I apply to women, I apply to men, and that involves putting a stop to stupidity.
Truth is, there are many versions of 'feminism' right from the inception of the term and through its evolution. The most popular being that of bashing males, or worse hating them, and doing exactly the things associated with 'being a man.'
On the one hand so-called feminists or the popular (unfortunately) wings associates strongly with prostrating themselves and allowing themselves to be objectified in the media, at the workspace, trying to shed off their clothes to give the appearance of modern as opposed to traditional. Burkha or bikini, it boils down to appearance, and is the result of what men would like to see either publicly or privately. Either way it is only and only a function of the patriarchal set up feminists condone.
Is that all a woman is about? How she looks? And does that define her as either 'free' or 'feminist'? I hardly think so.
The issues should be, in my opinion, right to be born and live. Right to education and work, and equal pay. The right to look like nerds and scraggy dolls as opposed to ass and boobs and pouted lips. The right to sex and marriage. The right to equal pay for equal work among many other fundamental rights.
But if sexing themselves up wasn't bad enough, women try to be like men! The insecurity around being a girl and a woman are so deep rooted, that women start off trying to become tomboyish to gain acceptance in the circle of family and friends. Give up colours, start smoking, doping and drinking and sleeping around with office colleagues to get to the top. They pride themselves in being 'supermoms' which is nothing but glorifying themselves for doing twice the amount of work.
Start giving up cooking, and wanting kids, being aggressive and the like. It's almost like they are ashamed of themselves. It's actually serious insecurity with being a woman altogether.
Men who claim to be feminists are no less. So I find it a shame that men start looking at women as cooler when they are more aggressive, and willing to pull others down at any cost, who sleep around to move up the ladder, and start doing 'cooler' things, which are associated with being a man. Nothing but a reflection of their own sub-species.
The point is the planet needs nicer, more balanced and sensible people, who are comfortable in their own skin - fat, thin, tall, short, dark, not-so-fair, those who cook and those who eat, those who are nurturing and loving, those who place values of education and non-violence and truth and who don't abuse themselves either by starving themselves or smoking or prostrating themselves at the work place.
And guess what, being in the garb of a man or a woman should not matter. So I don't really know if I want to label myself as a feminist. I just know that the same rules I apply to women, I apply to men, and that involves putting a stop to stupidity.
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